Thank you so much!! I'm ADHD and on the spectrum too. :) I can totally relate to this- my parents were middle-class but weren't great about things like food and clothes (work and school came above all else and it was very important to be "self-reliant" and pull yourself up by your bootstraps etc.) A few years ago a guy friend was hitting on me and said "I would have asked you out years ago but you were so dirty." (Until that time I'd lived in inner city DC, Appalachia, Ireland, and Israel on a very limited budget!)